The Lurking Silver Linings


Today is Thursday, beautiful, wonderful Thursday in May. I woke up this morning and felt the urge to nurture my beloved. How good do I feel after I gave her a peppermint foot massage. And I hope she feels nice and relaxed from it too. I gave myself a tarot reading and without going into grave detail about it, the reading suggested that I strive for self-love and being in the moment, with the past behind I am free to enjoy what comes my way. The affirmation for the two of cups tarot is: “love flows into my life in an endless stream.” I did all that in the morning, tarot and really soaking on what it means to be in the present.



I have not checked in sense mother's day, because I neglected my daily ritual of typing on Libreoffice. Basically, after I gave Ashley a minty foot massage I went on a much needed walk with Shannon (friend) and Rudi (dog). It is so nice being friends with a mother that does not have all her shit together, she is at the mercy of uncertainty as am I -- it's actually calming. But I really should not judge her uncertainty, for all I know things are really certain in her life. Needless to say the walk in nature grounds us both, and I was so grateful she wanted to go on an a.m. walk. Any who, back to the now and what else I am thinking, I am thinking how addicted I am to thinking and I just learned that you can actually be addicted to thinking. This whole time I thought they were feelings. And where I was going with that was that I take everything so personal and it's insane.



That is why I sought out therapy yesterday, more specifically EMDR (eye movement desensitization reprocessing), I know it sounds like Scientology or alien technology, and to be honest I have not started it yet. You have to give a brief introduction to a certified EmDR therapist first about traumatic situations that have happened to you in the first session. And I found out about this new therapy from Ashley. She highly recommend it, and she's done it with a professional too. It is suppose to help with confidence and PTSD too, which I have but un-diagnosed. I met with two therapist yesterday, one could say I was therapist shopping and fate had it's way and gave me a great one named: Jackie. I think female therapists are the best bet for me right now. Anyways, Jackie wants to help me process loosing my mom with EMDR therapy. I am so excited that I made the effort to seek help, I feel it takes courage to seek professional help, and admitting you need help is extremely humbling.
 

So I am looking forward to seeing where this therapy technique takes me. On another note, my brother called earlier today and wants to do lunch, he's in the 12-steps of recovery program and wants to make amends. I tried doing the steps myself and always seem to get stuck around 7 & 8 steps. The 8th step in the program is about making amends to yourself and others. If that sounds broad that's because it is. As my sponsor so delicately put it: “you're setting the record straight with those you have resentments towards.” In my observation easier said than done, but everyone raves about how healing it is. There's some karmic elements involved with making amends, think of the TV show: “My Name is Earl.” But yea I'm intrigue what Kevin has to say about it all, I can taste the awkwardness, and I need to try hard to not pre-judge the situation and stay in the moment. So I meditated at noon and focused on breath 'in and out.' That is what I am aspiring to achieve, non-judemental- calmness in all situations. 

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